Becky. I suspect you read into things what the original writer may not have intended and jump to conclusions. For example your response to 'sometimes miss' of "so TS are men to you" assumes that her reply was referring to mtof transsexuals whereas I think her reply was likely referring to crossdressing men. The original question was NOT would you date a transsexual was it?
Furthermore, your quoted portion of NicoleScott's reply was not transphobic or sexist as you suggest. She was clearly stating a viable opinion relating to biology. It is not unreasonable to suggest that two males (neither with any GRS surgery) having sex is simply that regardless of whether one or more declares himself to identify as female. She in no way suggests there is anything wrong with two males having sex whatever their internal gender identity. It is as if you want to be 'horribly offended' so much that you make it up as you go along and see offense where non is meant.