Cheryl, if a woman marries a guy, who then tells after marriage, they are indeed being forced on it. They are forced to now make a choice between acceptance or leaving the marriage. I feel I understand quite well what Leigh's wife is communicating here. Love your wife unconditionally. Love her just the same dressed or not, or whether or not she is doing something for the CDing aspects. THAT will make a wife feel best about the marriage. It is easy to love the heck out of someone when they are doing things for us. Loving them just as much when they are taking time for themselves, or not having a great day or whatever is going the extra mile.
Cheryl, perhaps your wife is just one of those who is a rare bird, and has no real problems with gender variance. And who knows, maybe she doesn't get the difficulty many women have with it. Many do though. It isn't all just from social conditioning or closed mindedness. (although that too) In many cases it is just a matter of wiring. Nothing you did special, no extra effort to accept, it might just be your wife's wiring as opposed to many other women who have much more difficulty with it.
