Quote Originally Posted by AnnaMarie View Post
I guess also that you are partly (if indirectly) to thank for me feeling pressured in to telling her. When you mentioned you had told your wife I did feel a huge amount of pressure to do the same.

Overall though, yes, I'm glad I've told her!
Well that's a relief then! I would hate to have influenced you (albeit indirectly) to tell, for you then to regret it. This is why I always caveat my comments when I respond to a 'should I tell or not thread'.

Yours and my experiences and the different reaction of of our wives, just go to show that no two situations are the same. In many ways we were so similar except perhaps in one. While we were both scared rigid at telling, there was one major difference. When we first discussed this, you said you thought your wife couldn't accept your dressing whereas I thought that it was most likely that my wife would ultimately accept this part of me. Maybe those who are struggling whether or not to tell should trust there gut feel rather than looking for the answer on this forum.

(Usual caveat to those thinking of telling: Only you know what's best for you. Once told, you can't undo it - unless you're married to the girl in 50 First Dates.)