We need a like button for Julie C's post.
Your tale of disclosure is not all that different than what many here have presented. What is also similar is your ongoing dream that she will somehow come across to your side of the fence. She will see you, accept you, participate. I'm not all that confident that this will happen. Counseling will help her to come around to your POV? Am I understanding what you are saying, that counseling will make her a willing and loving participant in your fantasy???Originally Posted by Anita Cosmolover
Read what Julie has written. Show some empathy for your wife's point of view and get rid of your unrealistic dreams of what bliss means to you. Showing a spine as Tracii is talking about means that you need to assert yourself with honesty to find a place where your desires can co-exist without throwing it in her face if at all possible. If someday she comes around to something more, terrific. But once you let go of that notion and have acceptable boundaries in place, you are likely to be much more at peace.
If showing a spine means asserting yourself to being able to wear lingerie at will in your castle (as you are the king, right?), then don't be surprised if your queen chooses to vacate the premises.
