First, I think you are grossly exaggerating the number of trans kids. "...not uncommon for most high schools to have at least one or two transgender students..." is WAY off. It would be extraordinary if "one or two" kids in the >36K US high schools (public and private) were out.
Secondly, about getting pushed in the wrong direction, not a chance. Cross dressers cross dress, they don't transition. Transpeople sometimes transition.
