@Mary
It may well end up being a choice between your desires and your wife. Has your wife talked to your psychiatrist? Can he/she show test results confirming the diagnosis? How about a second opinion?
We all have to make choices in life and sometimes these are not easy choices. I suggest thinking long term here, not just today, next month or next year. Also, realize that you can never be a true woman, the best you can do is be a transwoman. I suggest reading the transsexual sections and considering the problems many of the members talk about.
Best of luck whatever you decide.
