The point about "dates" is actually a good one. There are very few women who are attracted to men who are straight and open and publicly "non gender conforming". Most "non gender conforming" men, like the general population, are straight and like all straight men need women. Alienating potential partners (and living a lonely life without love) is one heck of a good reason to not be open and public with one's "gender nonconformity". I really wouldn't underestimate that. No one wants to be lonely (take it from someone who has been alone most of their life), it is emotionally (and physically) painful in a way those who have not experienced that kind of deprivation just can't understand.
