There's a huge "no-(wo)man's land" out there between CD & TS. It's not an "either-or" kind of thing.


A new sub-forum here is opening up soon to help address some of the unique issues some may face. Certainly not trying to offend anyone, but I honestly hope it's not over-run by "your average CD'er." Let those who truly belong openly discuss things for a bit -- there's nothing wrong with someone just lurking for a while & seeing what it's all about, if they wish. And if things really start resonating with someone, perhaps it might be time for them to join in.



How might you know if you're more than just a CD'er? I don't know if this qualifies at any level, but years ago when I was trying to figure out a lot of things & needed more information, I *seriously* researched "all-things TS" for quite a while. Could this help explain what was going on with me? I'm not so sure the typical CD'er does something like that, at least in the manner that I did (and on some levels, still do a bit).

Turns out, I know deep in my heart that I have no need to transition. It's not me. Generally speaking, the male part of me can feel comfortable & natural. Though there's probably also a good chance that I'm a bit more than just a CD'er -- arguably a good deal closer to that than to a TS, however. (Then again, that's never a completely static thing in my case, either, as things can shift from month to month, year to year.)

But for a long time starting from a pretty young age, I've been aware that there's also a strong female part of me, as well -- which can also feel comfortable & natural. She might not usually be as dominant as the male in many aspects, but I believe that might be partially explained for a number of reasons. I'm not so sure I'm being fair to her, though, either -- if things both within & outside my control were a bit different, she would definitely be that much more of a presence. Certainly some issues I feel I need to explore further. (And for those wondering, yes, I referred to all that as "her" & "she" because I do live a good chunk of my outward life as male, though not necessarily by choice.)



I don't know. I really don't want to ramble here. But I am very interested in learning from others who genuinely identify in this "middle ground," as I had never really thought of that as being "an option" before... Since I realized that I didn't need to transition or anything, I've always just sort of assumed I was a "really strong" CD'er, and left it at that. But in my case, as I look back at a lot of my life, I feel there's probably a bit more to it than just that.


I hope that helps a bit -- or at the very least, didn't make things even that more confusing, LOL.