Quote Originally Posted by Laurana View Post

Then again she is just a girlfriend and not a spouse.
Now that's sympathy for you. So life would suck worse if they were married?

I agree with the trust issue. I agree that the SO has learned things they need to work through. I also say that love doesn't see the shell, it sees the heart. But that is something one has to learn because we, as a society, have been taught to base our "love" on the physical. I do think telling her was the right move as it exposed things that are better in the open (on both sides of the fence) rather than painting over them for years and having the base rot away under a veneer. I hope things work out