Quote Originally Posted by Katya@ View Post
Basically, I break it down to myself into two - gender identity and sexual orientation. The sexual orientation is easy for me - it is rock solid consistent with that of cis-male.

OK, cis-male is not a thing so I'm guessing you mean heterosexual (i.e. "straight.") That's cool and has nothing to do with gender identity.

Echoing back what I'm hearing: you crossdress and you're out to your wife but now you're feeling like there's more to it. That's also cool and it's time, probably, to seek a gender counsellor who is experienced with transgender people and talk about what's going on. It's a little daunting to get started, but it will help you a lot to figure out if you're transgender (probably) and if so what kind. If you're on health insurance use your "find a doctor" app from your provider and look up potential therapists and call around to make sure they have real experience with actual transgender people. After talking for a while if you need to take further steps, they'll guide you to the appropriate specialists.

Good luck. It seems scary at first, it's an interesting ride.