I understand trying to protect your family, etc. but do you see what's happening here? You're deciding for your neighbors how they're going to react. You're deciding how your wife's coworker is going to react. But you don't know -- it didn't happen. I'm not saying you should discard all concerns, I'm just saying recognize what's actually happening. You're reacting to imagined problems, not real ones. And you're probably winding yourself up a bit by doing it. Be as prudent as you want; don't show yourself until you're ready, but just let it drop where it ended -- you avoided a reveal and so nothing happened. Breathe normally and don't extend it out to some nightmare scenario that upsets you. Just my opinion. Talk it over with your therapist -- it's a great topic.
