A visit to Nordstroms Rack in beautiful Boise

[Jenniferathome]

Laura, those are some pretty wild what-ifs, but let me take a crack at this:

...However...

If one is in some sort of "business" setting, whether it be retail, or a restaurant, or whatever, then yes, most if not all staff should & probably will serve a CD as they would any other non-CD customer...

Yep. In my experience and the experience of my CD friends, this is true 100% of time. My money is green just like when I am in dude mode.

... But after that CD is gone? Who knows what happens. And you'll never know. The professional might very well run to the bathroom & literally vomit. ...

Well first, I have to reevaluate my deodorant. And secondly, you are suggesting that this person was able to choke down their vomit while treating me with courtesy and respect. Does that really seem like something that could happen?

...But after that CD is gone? Who knows what happens. And you'll never know. ... Or, perhaps simply chat with one of his/her associates... "Yeah, had some freakin' dude wearing a wig & skirt come in earlier today. I was like, WTF?? Unfortunately I was the only one around at the time, so I had to help him/her/it, whatever that thing was. And their nails were even painted? Really? Totally creeped me out, I'm telling you. I really hope I don't have to experience that ever again."

Is that what one would consider "acceptance"?..

I would not call what you wrote as "acceptance." Rather, I would call it tolerance. It's like gay marriage. You don't have to like it. You don't have to agree with it. But you do have to respect it.

Still, as you suggested, I was treated with courtesy and respect (like any normal) and then I left. How am I adversely affected by a person I do not know, and with whom I am not interacting, laughing at me or even hating me? I am not affected. There is ZERO adverse affect.

...And remember, this is in a business environment, of sorts. Outside of that, anything goes, really. I've had some awesome experiences, myself -- as well as some not so great ones. I'm betting many of us here have. It's not all puppies & rainbows & glitter out there when it comes to this whole "trans thing." You realize that even physical violence can occur in some circumstances, right? And yes, some are even *murdered* because of this -- look it up, it's true.

Not saying this is likely to happen, but it can & does.

Again, does that sound like "acceptance" to anyone? Honestly?....

I have never written nor suggested that "..all puppies & rainbows & glitter out there..." In fact, after 5 years on this forum, I have NEVER read that from any poster. I am curious where you got that notion. Of course the world is not fair. Is this news? We have terror attacks but we still go out. In the USA, there are multiple mass shootings, LITERALLY, ever week, And yet, people still go out. No one can live a life behind a closed door ordering everything on Amazon. Life is "out there." So again, in response to your extreme examples, in my experience, we are accepted and at the worst, widely tolerated.