Quote Originally Posted by Jessicaa View Post
I am back, A couple months ago I came here asking for advice on telling my girlfriend. I told her. She directly said "Its me or the cross dressing" even after I told her she didnt need to have any part of it. I know it must have been extremely hard for her to hear and her reaction is somewhat understandable but I dont know how I feel about it. I have told her and she knew how much I trust her and how much I love her, I am kind of surprised how she could easily just up and leave over this. Im baffled to say this least and extremely hurt.

Ultimately I told her I would try and stop but after years of dressing and purging I dont know if I can. What should I do? What would you do? I love her and want to be with her but cross dressing is also a part of my life. This is such a horrible situation to be in.
Seriously we all give up something of ourselves in a mutual relationship. Two people never get everything their way. Everybody has to figure out what to give up. Sometimes its merely a hobby. Sometimes its as life-changing as a job/career/residence. Some even give up family relationships when the family members reject the significant other. Its been said maybe if you give this up somewhere down the road you will be asked to give up something else. True. There's many time in these situations that one can develop a dominate roll. And believe me its hard to forecast and harder to handle when it gets to be too much.

The answer might not be so simple, but as a wise proverb says: "Life wouldn't be so hard if we didn't think it was supposed to be so easy!"