Just to add to some of the points that have come up:
1) For all the talk in the media (social and mainstream) about gender, this site for the most part is still very much an older CDs site. I haven't seen any signs of the SJW obsession with gender terms or too much of the social advocacy threads here. We're from a generation and background that cares little for university safe spaces and Facebook gender terms, but more for keeping our marriages in tact and not having our relatives disown us.
2) RE: Passing. As someone suggested below, I set up a HotorNot account and used a picture from my profile here. I am passing no problems on that and my rating is 4/5. My strength is and always was my face but we all have good angles and bad angles. Passing in real life is about passing from every angle, not just the one the camera was pointing. When the planets align, I am presentable but not passable.
3) I have recently felt a lot of angst about not being able to fulfill the image I have in my mind for my female self/look.
Years ago on a night out in male mode with friends that all knew I was CD, I told one of the women there that I know what 99% of women feel like when they walk past a clothing store window. I'll never be able to wear that. The look she gave me was priceless, like she met a guy who actually understood something about women that men generally don't understand. And this is an angst felt by women I would gladly switch places with. Given that we have this added genetic hurdle to climb, I wouldn't want to see support groups like this one introduce any mechanism that would unfairly compare its members to each other based on looks. When I first saw this post I thought it was compliment bait.
