yea, I would have liked it to come "out' with my old friends on my terms, not theirs. There IS some more good news in this story, I left out cause I felt it was ALREADY too long of a story.

Remember the first girl I reached out to who I told was trans ? The one who already knew ? Well, we have been messaging each other for about a year before I was outed, I would tell her we needed to link up I have some very important news ( I was planning on coming out to her ). We just were unable to make our schedules link. So when I found out I was outed I just told her on the phone rather than in person , yes she knew, and told me she was waiting for me to approach her on it because she already knew I was going to come forward with it.

But thats not the best part, we met up, and she met Adriana . This was interesting because it was a whole new world for her. She was impressed that we could go out together and nobody even batted an eye, how nobody cared, or for the most part noticed. She had a million and 1 questions, and was impressed with all the knowledge I had on the subject. She also commented" you used to be so miserable, now I can see you are beaming with happiness".


So at the end of the day...the one person from my past I actually wanted to keep and felt bad about leaving behind is now part of my NEW group of friends,

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I am not sure why you didn't call the police that is illegal and more importantly immoral. It was none of his business and he should have butted out. I would have turned him in
not to be a drama queen, but I thought about this too, THIS is the only thing that really upset me, what really makes me mad is the fact I couldnt control the situation. It is one thing to find me online, or in social media ( its all out there waiting for you to find )...its another to sneak into my email and violate my privacy.

Quote Originally Posted by ReineD View Post
I'm sorry you're on the outs with your old friends.


I'm curious, though ... do you think your ex-friend is in the habit of hacking into his friends' mailboxes or did he target you specifically. And if you think he did, do you have an opinion as to why he would want to do this?
This is a good question, and I'm still wondering why. My only guess is I know him pretty well, and my guess is after going a few years without remotely reaching out to me, and ignoring any effort I had made to reach out, after time, it dawned on him I was gone, and instead of confronting the situation, just picking up the phone and saying hi, he felt the better choice was to snoop into my email to see if he could figure out what I was up to, this is a pattern of behavior I can see now, because he also avoided confronting ME on the transgender issue too, maybe he was just nosey, and wanted to find out what I was up to without actually having to reach out. These are some of the thoughts that go through my head. I really dont know why.