I wouldn't say I am necessary victim blaming. In a thread asking about how common negative encounters are, I think it makes sense to say that you do have some level of control over the likelihood.
It reminds me of the time I was working at Victoria's Secret and this guy came in wearing bikini swimsuit. Really? We kicked him out and he was crying discrimination, etc. I am not going to sympathize with him. I am all for crossdressing and acceptance but I still think there is a line, and when you cross that line I am not going to defend you or sympathize with you. There is a line that can be crossed to where you deserve the shame. It has nothing to do with shaming the crossdresser for crossdressing, but just decency. I'd shame a woman for coming into a retail store wearing a bikini as well.
Now that is obviously a very extreme example but what I am saying is that if you want to minimize your chances of having something negative happen out in public, minimize your risk. Part of minimizing your risk is picking an appropriate outfit.
