Quote Originally Posted by Zooey View Post
Alternatively, all of those words have actual definitions, which aren't predicated on your feelings... Without HRT, I was male no matter how I felt about it. Medically, with the exception of reproductively, my body is more female than male at this point, so my doctors treat me that way. If you're a natal male comfortable living as male/a man, that makes you a cis man - not trans. "TG" has lost it's meaning; gender non-conformance is not gender-identity. Woman is a lived gender identity, defined by a matrix of biological and sociological factors. Prior to actually living as a woman, I was definitely trans, but I somewhat regret claiming to BE a woman at that point. Life is a harsh teacher though, and my identity as a woman grows more developed every day.

We don't have to redefine words to talk honestly, openly, or compassionately about our issues.
But redefine is exactly what you are doing. You denigrate the accepted use of TG as being meaningless. Then say that "woman" is a lived gender identity. That is just another way to redefine the term to exclude others that aren't full time, part time, or whatever your personal cut off is. I am perfectly fine with you making your own definition of terms when applied to yourself. When you use those personal definitions to exclude others that is anything but honest or compassionate discussion. I personally am gender fluid in that I'm am comfortable as presenting as both male or female. If I had to choose only one gender then that would be female. Since I don't have to choose, that does not make me any less trans then you or others. The prevailing definitions of most of those gender terms are not in line with your usage. And that ultimately leads to the "not trans enough" attitude that I see far too often. Does HRT, or breasts, or bottom surgery make you trans enough? How about FFS or years spent transitioned and socialized? Others would exclude you because you will always have Y chromosomes. I spend my time defining who I am and how I live my life and trust that I am the only one who can do that!