How Many are Straight?

[PaulaQ]

Now if you'd said that transwomen didn't face other issues that women face in a misogynistic, man-centric world, you'd perhaps be on the same footing as the TERFS. For example, we don't face the threat of rape. Oh no wait, I've faced that. In fact many of us who are raped face especially savage rapes. Guys don't target us as victims of crime because we aren't real women. Oh wait, no, that's happened to me too. In fact, I worry about being out on the street after dark now. We definitely aren't talked over by men, ignored, or our input totally disregarded. Except - all those things happen to me on a routine basis now.

If you mean I should continue to be punished because I had a hellish, nightmare existence where I desperately tried to be something I just wasn't (a man), and because I missed out on both good events in a young woman's life, as well as some bad ones, then i just think you are kind of mean spirited.

Oh, to answer the question originally posed by this thread, and the logic many of you seem to use, obviously I'm arrow straight. Yup, straighter than straight. Before transition, I was married to two different women. And apparently, since my transition doesn't count, I guess the label for my sexual orientation didn't change either? So what am I? What if I date a cisgender woman now? What would you call my sexual orientation? How about if I date another trans woman? Or, as is the case for me, what if I'm engaged to a transgender (FtM) man? Am I straight in that case, because in your mind I'm a man and he's a woman? Or if I date a trans woman, are we both just a couple of gay dudes with boobs?

But don't worry much if I seem to be chiding you over your use of terminology. Hey, the CDC classifies me and my fiancé (trans woman + trans man) as if we are both just a couple of gay dudes - we are listed as "men who have sex with men" and prohibited from blood donation. Perhaps you can explain that one to me.

Oh, one last thing - something I've observed over my lifetime. People who are really straight don't talk about how straight they are. Seriously, they just don't.

I don't personally believe they could actually refer to themselves as a lesbian even if they have the SRS because they have never had to deal with a bloody pair of panties on some random Tuesday at the age of 13 or being thrust into a male-centric world where women are forced to adapt to things like having to sit down on a used toilet seat to pee when men can just stand and not have to share the body warmth of a complete stranger. Why in the world has there not been a urinal designed for women yet anyway? Back to the point; if we are born genetic males, we can not claim to be anything exclusive to a genetic female, like being a lesbian. I agree with you.