Competition?

[ReineD]

I felt like your wife. I'll try to explain why.

I felt the competition came on two fronts. The first was only present occasionally and this was with my SO's more sexual outfits. I'll stay out of the debate about preferring the sissy look vs a lingerie pin-up girl, since sexual tastes vary widely. But, your outfit is decidedly sexual with the size of the breasts, the length of the dress, thigh-highs, crotch shot, etc. With my SO it was short, tight sweater dresses hugging a curvy, hour glass figure (breast forms, waist cincher, hip pads), with a body pose and facial expression reminiscent of an orgasmic woman. In any case, I felt as if my SO was aroused on occasion by situations that excluded me, since pictures like that do imply sexual arousal, whether the arousal is immediately before, during, or sometime after. I would have felt a sense of competition over anything or anyone that aroused my SO and that excluded me, whether it was another woman, a man, another CDer, porn, certain forms of crossdressing, or having a paid session with a dominatrix.

Second, I perceived that nothing gave my SO as much pleasure as dressing up, even when it wasn't in sexual outfits. My SO used to go to this head zone when she was dressed, and when she was in that head space, it was as if my presence was not necessary. And sometimes, my SO did prefer to dress and spend time with others when I wasn't there, whether it was having lunch with another GG or having a drink at the gay bar. This was impossible for me to understand and it lasted a number of years early in our relationship. It created an imbalance in our relationship because there was nothing that I prioritized over my SO. I felt as if I competed with the CDing (the activity) for a place in my SO's priorities or preferences.

I know you spend time with your wife. My SO and I spent time together too. It wasn't a lack of attention, but the head space that my SO went to, that sort of left me behind. I reached a comparable head space (happiness?) when I was with my SO. Does the imbalance make sense?

To the people who say that wives are jealous of the look, a resounding no. To those who compare it with Sunday football, no again.

There were some great answers in this thread. Carla, it’s a good thing you’re a good sport.