Lexi,
The problem is being to talk all those points through in a calm and adult manner, that is where DADT is so destructive we have to hide so much and not be honest with our needs.
Most of us know the answers to the basic questions, we know if we are attracted to men or not, we know if we still have male feelings towards women , I can clearly answer those what I can't answer is how female do I wish to be, that is a very tricky one and one I'm struggling with because of my DADT situation, If I was allowed to freely dress without any problems the answer may become clearer cut then we can be honest with ourselves and our partners.
I feel Judy is tying herself hands and feet to comply with her wife's wishes, some would say it's emotional blackmail, honesty has to come from both sides, OK she has said she won't live with a CDer, is that bluff to get her own way or true fact ? Judy has to get a clear answer to that one .
So many talk about love on the forum ,if a couple love each other enough they can work through problems like these . It's a question I've asked my wife so many times , how much does she really love me ? That goes back to before I came out, I have to accept some people have problems showing true love but at times it can hurt . The simple gesture of putting arms round someone and telling how much they love you , I could count on one hand in all my years of marriage , sometimes the hidden messages aren't enough .
