When i read posts like this, I can not relate. I would say "I wish I could" but truth is, I am happy I can't. My SO is fully on board, fully accepting and very supportive. she never has had a hang up about it, never questioned where this may or may not go, and when she does bring it up in conversation, it's always positive or for a chuckle at my expense but never to hurt my feelings. I really don't understand how any of you deal with it.

These posts are the reason that a lot of dressers feel it's unsafe to tell their SO's about their dressing and with good reason. I am not saying they shouldn't be made because we need both sides of the coin here for discussions, support, and such.

Quote Originally Posted by Fiona123 View Post
The problem with dadt is that it puts the partner in charge of when one can dress
I agree with this and from what Leslie posted it shows that they are given more power than just when you can dress. It becomes a weapon to be used at any given time that the insecurities pop up or whatever it is when it happens. DADT has always seemed like a self destructive thing to me. If My SO wasn't on board the way she is, I probably would have left her because to say You love me but not accept a part of me is nothing more than a lie itself.