Very interesting. Some of the European countries aren't the only place that women are treated like slaves. I was in an Asian country, I gathered some dishes after dinner. I thought the husband was going to go through the roof.
We have a system that works for us. If I am closer, I do the chore. If I notice that the carpet needs vacuuming, I vacuum. If the chore requires more muscle it is my responsibility. Vegetable garden, both of us.
I don't think that it's the Cross dresser in me. I think that it's the human in me.