Is keeping a secret too much to ask from someone?

[Pat]

I'm sorry you feel that way but the truth is the truth weather you want to admit it or not.
Neither of my ex wives could keep a secret.

(Personal opinion) It may say more about your choice of wives than reveal a universal truth about all women everywhere. People are people -- some can keep confidentiality and some can't. It's not sex-related.

This isn't about whether or not to tell, or how to tell. The issue is how to tell with the expectation that she will honor your wish to keep it confidential.

(Moderator's opinion) Nicole is correct. Please stay on topic. It's not like there's a shortage of "should I tell?" threads out there if you want to discuss that.