Thanks again everyone. Really great input from people who truly understand.
I think I am still wondering how important it is for her to know. Its something I do in phases- the thoughts and urge arise, I act on them, and it goes away for a while. Ever since I was young, thats how its happened. Right now my desire to tell her is because of MY desire to just someone who knows me. Not just anyone, but my wife. I also wonder/hope if this is somehing she would be willing to pariticpate in with me sexually somehow. I can see how thaf may be selfish, however, and thus perhaps not the best reason(s) to tell her.
On the other hand- having known her for 5 years now, I know she would opt to know everytbing about me. Her dad had a second daughter unbeknownst to her and her mom until she was in college. To be brief, I know she would be crushed to "find something out" about me later in life. Hoping Im not too late at this point, but if Im honest and explain how i havent been truly honest with myself, perhaps she will understand...
Either way, I am going to take my time with this decision. Hopefully it can somewhoe come out naturally when I feel 100% confidence that she should know.
Joey
