MissSeret,
I recently came out to my wife as well. Although she is excepting, she is still processing and coming to terms with it.
That being said, if I were in your situation, I would not dress in secret or behind her back so to speak. It’s my opinion that if you do, her being able to absorb all of this could totally back fire on you. Even tho she knows now, being sneaky with your urge to dress could very well be dishonesty in her eyes (provided she found out you were secretly dressing). Trust me, I definitely understand that urge to dress. I think we all do. Us CD’ers have to remember that we have been doing what we do for many, many years. Our wives or SO’s are just now being brought into our world (for some of us). So they need time to wrap their heads around things. I believe that being honest (not sneaky) and doing our best to stay out of that “pink fog” will go a long way with her being more excepting.
At the moment, my wife chooses to be in the DADT group. It’s a huge relief to me that she knows now and I have the feedom to be Stephanie. However, I can’t let Stephanie take over. Would I love to be en femme majority of the time? Hell yes!! But, I love my wife of almost 22 years now very much. She is still my priority, not Stephanie. My advise would be to not let Miss Secret take over. Just imagine that little kid that walked into Disney World for the first time. They are overwhelmed with so many things all at once. I think our wives or SO’s just walked into Disney World for the first time.
Anyway, not sure if this is helpful or even makes any sense, but good luck.
