Hi Ceera,
Wow! You handled a situation so well when it could have gone south in so many ways. Very, very admirable and, I must add, a very womanly approach to a really complex and difficult dynamic. A great lesson in being tolerant and accepting toward others which is what we want from them. So very sorry about your brother-in-law and his situation. He may not like you, but he is still your relative by marriage. Great attitude on your part.
As for Rogina, I completely agree with Sue. Get off your high horse and express a little compassion and empathy. You are entitled to your opinion, but the put downs of Ceera and, by extension, many others here are not at all helpful or supportive of the struggles we all have to deal with in situations like Ceera faced and handled so beautifully. Not everything trans needs to be turned into a war that damages or destroys families all for the benefit of one person's expression of their rights. That is really selfish on your part, in my opinion.
