From her reaction I suspect a rigid binary upbringing, probably with strong religious underpinings, and what you've presented her with is something that is totally outside her comfort level, verging on horrific. She's worried about all the usual things: losing the man she loves and married; losing the father of her children; fear of riddicule; fear of losing the respect and friendship of "friends"; being shunned by her (and probablry your" extended family; and so forth.
As many here will tell you, repressing it in yourself will not work long term. The womanly feelings and need for self expression will want to get out! My only advice is to be true to your whole self and don't sacrifice who you are in favor of who others want you to be.
Rhonda
