"She listens to her friends talk about their husbands and all she thinks about is mine is a girl. The need to dress or expressive your feminine side will never go away."
Well said. And there you have it. So put things back in the box and let things settle down. It's hard for others to accept the concept of duality. It's just not in the social plan to be fully male and also express female expression and adventure.
I would hope your wife is not so closed minded to not try to educate herself about what is truly going on. At best, DADT is a good mutually respectful situation.
