Quote Originally Posted by Helen_Highwater View Post
Lydianne,

The reason the passing issue is such a contentious one is so many here write of a desire to go out but know they don't pass hence stay in doors. The vast majority of those here who go out know they don't pass certainly close inspection. We may be convincing enough to be able to walk through a crowd and be largely un-noticed but that's as far as it goes. Close up, face to face, we get read.

Hence there are many who let the fear of being read and the perceived fallout from that dictate their reluctance to go out. The person who started this thread, Teresa, is/has found out that passing is not a prerequisite for being successfully out in public. Once you are able to overcome this fear there is so much waiting for someone to experience. It's the desire to spread the word that passing isn't the be all and end all of successfully going out in public. It's a dragon that needs to be slayed.
What She said ^^.....

I think if we can all go about our lives with out making passing the goal versus just looking our best, the stress and fear will melt away.

During xmas while standing outside a store waiting for my wife, I was watching the packed sidewalks full of holiday shoppers walking by, when my eyes caught a women strutting like She owned the sidewalk.

She had this impeccable outfit on, Matching shoes , Skirt and Jacket. Then I realized it wasn't a women at all, but rather one of our sisters.

I felt bad about it later because I stared, I didn't mean to but I was shocked about how confident She looked. I hope I didn't ruin her day.

That's who I want to be, just like her.