I have been lucky in that those that do my mani/pedi's (including color) have seen it all, thus know and do not care. they are easy to talk to. The same goes for those that do massage and you have little to fear. Just bring up the topic with a direct question. Do you care? My wife and I get massages every two weeks. Our first mause became a friend, knew all about Alice and totally accepts. She loves to value shop and has bought me blouses that she thought I would like. Our second mause is a daughter in law, but is now a nurse. She also knows and totally accepts. I have used outside mauses and have done so with painted nails and no problems and easily established open communications. I think it would be worth a try and if it works and after several contacts you may open a fulfilling dialogue, which may also open up talking to your wife
