Quote Originally Posted by Teresa View Post
Please try and be more considerate to members who are struggling with coming out issues , as I said I post these little stories to give encouragement to others . I really don't find your's or Daisy's replies are going to help anyone , I could say much more on this subject but will respect other members .

Teresa,

First let me say that I am amazed at how far you've come in your journey. What I'm about to say is not meant to be negative or disrespectful to you in any way. What I see is that you are well on your way to coming out to the world, however reading your postings and accepting what you say, you are coming out to the world as a cross dresser, not as a trans woman.

Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with being a cross dresser, if that's what you are great, if you're something else/more that's great also (only you can say what you are). You say that Rogina and Daisy make comments that aren't going to help anyone. What you seem to forget/ignore/not understand is that coming out as a cross dresser, even if it is almost full time, is not the same as coming out as a trans woman. From what I'm reading in their posts it seems that this is something they are trying to ensure that others realize. You've made comments that there are times you still present as male because you are sensitive to the feelings of others, or that it is more appropriate for the occasion. You've made comments that you use clothes to identify which group label you identify with. These types of comments seem to be more in the lines of a cross dressers thinking than that of a trans woman. I'm not saying that what you're doing is easy or lessens what you are doing. What I am saying is that you have a safety net to fall back on, where as I and other trans women don't. My life is 100%, that includes things like going to work every day, dealing with the public (good and bad) every day, shopping, and even as far as going to court as a witness in court cases.

What I'm trying to say, and I think Daisy and Rogina, are also trying to point out is that while there are things that are similar between coming out as a cross dresser and a trans woman, there are also differences, drastic differences, and people need to be aware of that. The last thing anyone wants is to see someone make a mistake because with their life because they have incomplete, or inaccurate information.

As I said at the beginning of this post, I respect you for how far you've come on your journey, and I hope you don't take this as being negative about you or your path.