Can we say [I]sensitive topic?[I]

A lot of y'all can't understand why men who dress completely as women are though of as gay? Seriously? To me, it's the most logical conclusion. And, yes, I know the difference.

I think a lot of crossdressers who so distance themselves from being gay do so in part (or in total) because they have turf to protect. They want to have a relationship with or be married to a woman, and they do everything they can do to downplay that there is absolutely no correlation between dressing up and even thinking about sex with a man. Even if they admit to wanting to have sex "as a woman", it's not with a man, but with a woman as a lesbian. BTDT.

I feel an undercurrent even on here that there's something wrong with being gay, and if you're married t a woman, there probably is. If you're not married, I'm finally coming around in my own life/mind to feeling that a man (cd or not) being with another man is an equal alternative to a man being with a woman. As much as I tried/claimed to be non-judgmental about that, up until pretty recently I wasn't really. I have completely come around to where I think if an unmarried male has even the slightest curiosity about it, especially as a teenager, they absolutely should act on it. I think the predominant thought before was probably to squash it and move on with the more socially acceptable path. I feel very strongly that that is absolutely wrong! Particularly in the times we live in today. If it goes unexplored, someone may miss out on something way more important so much of a larger part of their life than that little twinge of curiosity indicated. They may also find out conclusively that it's not for them. It's a win either way.

I think in this resistance to classifying ourselves as gay, we start slicing it so thin that we can manipulate this curiosity or impulse to where we convince ourselves that this attraction to somebody with a penis is not gay. Haven't actually done anything, only when dressed, only with another crossdresser, only with a really hot crossdresser, I'm sure there are other little thin slices that some use to run from the gay tag.

One thing that happened after my divorce was I found out that not everybody has or even desires the straight, suburban, married, kids, corporate ladder climbing lifestyle that I was programmed by southern U.S. society to pursue. I found out people are more varied than I ever knew. I'd led a sheltered life without really realizing it. I've experienced a lot of things since then, and I'm much more aware and accepting of people and consequently of myself. I have no hangups anymore about men being with men, women with women, crossdressers with crossdressers, or whatever combination you want to come up with. Thank goodness I came to realize that the very best people can be straight, gay, bi or whatever sexual tag I may not have heard of yet, and that a man can legitimately fall in love with another man, and that gay doesn't mean cruising public restrooms.

I'm sure most of you will disagree with me on there even being the slightest connection between crossdressing and being gay, but I bet if y'all would lighten up about it and be completely honest and forthcoming, there are a lot more of you out there who would admit to fantasizing about it, dreaming about it, being tempted by it, and would damn well act on it given the right circumstances. As far as gay guys being attracted to us, we can't even talk about it without stereotyping gay men, and if you're not one, how would you know? I think there are "straight" guys who certainly run from the gay tag, too, but would do a good looking crossdresser in a heartbeat. Given all the slicing that I talked about earlier, that could easily happen and neither one of them consider themselves gay!