It seems to me that we're back into arguing about labels. Paula, if you want us to call you a woman to your face, we will. We'll call you whatever you want. but if you want the world to consider you a woman just the same as one who is born female, it's not going to happen, as much as we all wish it could.
Hormones, surgery, nothing will change what we are. Labels won't change what we are.
I can insist that I am a dog, I want to be called a dog, treated as a dog, allowed to behave as a dog, etc.. But few are going to be willing to adopt me, take me for walks, feed me, let me poop on newspaper in their basement, or to pet me and rub my belly in order to get my hind legs going, well, because I'm not a dog to the rest of the world, no matter what I tell them.
You are a MTF TS. Don't get upset if that's what people believe you are, and have trouble dealing with it. In YOUR mind, you're a woman. In everyone else's mind, you're a MTF TS. Which is just fine. And it's YOU that has to come to understand and accept, that there's nothing wrong with that! Insisting that you're not what you are, because it makes YOU feel uncomfortable, is not everyone else's problem. It's yours. We can try to make you feel better about it, but that won't change how most of the world thinks of you. Better to accept who and what you are, and be comfortable with it.
I'm a crossdresser. I admit that and have to live with it. I've accepted it. Be who you are, and don't try to take someone else's label, you know, like how the fat people stole the 'curvy' adjective because they didn't like being called fat.
I'm also fat. I'm not 'big boned', 'husky', etc.. I'm fat.
In the end, we are what we are, and trying to change the words won't change anything.
