It sounds like she is pulling high school girl tricks on you to try and get you upset to the point you leave.
Don't let her games dictate what you do or don't fall for her head games.
I would file myself and claim spousal abuse before she does.
Leaving is hard and the situation sucks we all get that but if you want to be happy and find love you have to do something because the love is not in the relationship now and once its gone its not coming back.
