My wife is very pro cross dressing, but she is also somewhat scathing of those who dress in a manner which clearly does objecify a women in a negative sense. Extreme heels, a common liking on these boards would be a case in point. I'm quite happy to take a view that we should pay respect to that manner of thinking. If we can remove this negative attitiude towards our dressing and our reasons for dressing then I'm sure that more of us would find approval easier from not only our nearest and dearest but also society as a whole.
Furhter, I would not seek approval from my wife of what I choose to wear but I wouldn't choose to wear something of which she disapproves and logically why would I?
I also have to agree with Rachel that it's a shame when threads like this come around there are those who seem to subscribe to the "those who shout loudest get heard" school of thought.
Finally, perhaps we should bear in mind that offence is in the ear of the hearer, not the mouth of the speaker.
