Well that's the whole point isn't it abbiedrake. The OP commented "some may even say what else do I expect dressed like that" because that is exactly what she was expecting herself. If you dress for attention you'll get it, it doesn't matter if you like it or not, it doesn't matter if it's rude or illegal, you still get it. If I dye my hair green I'll get attention and I may well be laughed at. Some people think green hair is laughable, fact not opinion. If I do it and it happens I'm not going to complain and say you have no right to laugh at my green hair because the reality is that I'm intelligent enough to know that some people think a middle aged man with green hair is laughable. You can say to me "what else did I expect?" and my honest answer would be that in my real life existance where there are not unicorns at the end of rainbows I fully expected that I would be laughed at even though I wouldn't laugh at anyone else for their hair colour choice. So yes I tacitly agreed with the OP's statement because she and I and everyone else living on the planet knows there is some truth in it. That is NOT victim blaming and accusing me of doing so is still offensive. But not half as offensive as it is to my friend who campaigns for women to take steps to protect themselves so that they don't end up a murder statistic like her sister. Oh and by the way, there was no victim blaming at his trial, he went down for life but guess what, on his first day release from prison after 10 years he murdered another woman.This 'discussion' stems from your now- absent tacit agreement with OP's comment "some may even say what else do I expect dressed like that". Victims blame themselves (as OP kinda did). Agreeing with that is victim blaming.
At least Di understands it. But then she is a woman without the priviledge of a male safety blanket. I think one of the most annoying things about this forum is how a bunch of men who like to play dress up think they know what it's like to be a real woman in a testosterone dominated world. Well they don't.
