Originally Posted by
Stephanie47
I think what any cross dresser has to be wary of with his wife is taking on the personna of a woman. From your narrative it appears you and her are fairly liberal in the bedroom. No explanation needed, but,that suggests to me she is a woman who is willing to explore. But, is there a point when she will hit a wall? Hard to tell until you get there. From your description of 'playful' activities; partial dressing and makeup, that may be construed by her to be playful, 'kinky.' What will happen when you get to being fully en femme; wig, makeup, dress, hosiery and heels. Will you male personna be totally lost?
My personal experience was along that line. My wife when first married was adventurous. Ultimately, we shopped together for long nylon nightgowns for me and hosiery/garter belt. It was 'fun' in the sense of something 'kinky' with benefits for both of us. However, there was no loss of male personna. Just a little kink and love of nylon. It hit the fan when she found a vivid red Vanity Fair bra I had bought. That was her 'wall.' She "could not understand why a man who has nothing to pack into a bra would want to wear a bra?" Almost her exact words. Then came "The Talk." She had no interest with being with a woman. If she wanted to be with a woman she would have chosen a woman, and, not some pseudo woman. Wearing anything feminine quickly became a non starter because the thought of me adopting some sort of female personna was too much for her.
Perhaps, there will be a point when your wife hits a wall. I related several time when men I know were made up and dressed up by their wives for a Halloween party. In oth cases it was the wife's idea, and, to my knowledge neither man has ever displayed any desire to take it further. Definitely my father-in-law did a one time affair.
The best advice is to let your wife lead. She may take it further than she ultimately can accept, and, then want to back off. Maybe for a while. Maybe for good. I think the real issue for a woman is whether she is willing to let the male personna become subservient to a female personna when looking at her husband.
