That's actually not true. While I can go where ever I want in public, private businesses have a right to serve who they want to. I am not trans, just a CD. But like I said, even if I could demand to go in and be served, if the stylist didn't want to do my hair because I am a CD then Id much rather know ahead of time than to chance someone messing up my hair. It's kind of like that Gay couple that demanded the baker make their wedding cake against the bakers wishes. Do they really want to serve their friends and family a cake that they forced someone to make?
I dont beg for people to accept who I am. I really could care less what people think. At the same time, though, I try to treat people nicely and how I would want them to treat me. I wouldnt call ahead to a restaurant and ask if they served crossdressers. They don't provide a lot of individual service. But hair and nail places, doctors, massage therapist, and basically any place that someone's negative attitude could seriously affect me, I am going to make sure they are ok to serve me. I don't think that I am wrong for doing this. I don't know when respecting other people's feelings became something bad.
