This is an interesting point of discussion. It’s something that kinda gets overlooked here in the mad rush for self expression. There seems to be heaps of anecdotal evidence that the better we “pass” or “blend” the more likely we are to be accepted by “normal” society. Ever seen a doll or robot or maybe cartoon character that was inexplicably “creepy”? That’s because people have weird thresholds for what their psyche can accept. Things that are not at all human, or definitely human. But some things fall a little in between and for some reason cause us illogical revulsion and fear. This was a principle discovered in robotics and called the “uncanny valley”. A similar principle applies to us. When we present as definitely male or definitely [passable/blending] female, people have an easier time accepting us.
This isn’t to say passing is better or something we all need to drive for, but if you’re interested in socializing and being accepted as your femme self, refining your presentation goes a long way towards putting others at ease.
