Diane,
Yours is the typical rationalist macho analysis to excuse a man dressing as a woman but you forget something basic in every human being.
We're made, built of experiences and information from our environment and one of the strongest info are the stereotypes. Nobody is free of them, less the emotional person. Women are emotional, their feelings can change for night to morning so you can't understand them because their can not understand themselves.
It's impossible you can understand this concept because you're applying rational analysis to feeling that most of the time are not rational.
I won't get deeper in this because you will try to rationally analice it and is not possible, just a woman, under the women's hormones can understand what I'm saying.
I'll give you homework to think about it
Devi
