I would contradict you on: 4) for some people it’s only ever a fetish. For some it’s just a fetish but they don’t recognize or acknowledge that fact and 5) I strongly disagree with the “NIMBY” label. A straight man can be pro gay rights without being in a gay relationship. Likewise women can be pro-trans and CD rights without wanting to be in a lesbian relationship. You’re comparing apples and oranges there. And along those lines, there isn’t one answer to #6. Everyone has their own views that are influenced by a number of factors, possibly including those you mention, but there are way too many variables to make any broad statements.
