I finally had an opportunity to take photos of the "offending" outfits yesterday. After seeing the photos, I can honestly say that I understand her reason for not liking them. But, tightness isn't the true reason. I could go up a size or two and I'm convinced her opinion wouldn't change. The fact is that the fitted outfits show the complete lack of any hourglass. If a woman with reasonable curves wore the outfits with the same snugness, maybe some women would consider them to be tight, but most men might actually appreciate the look.
After looking at the photos, I am still inclined to wear them on occasion, hopefully with some loss of weight. Since I only dress at home, she's the only one that will have to endure me in less than flattering outfits. Even if she sees the flaws in my "physique" (she doesn't like me to call it my "figure") she's been very generous in her love and acceptance. Tight or less flattering outfits are not the dealbreakers in the relationship. There are boundaries which leave me feeling constricted and there are open places that leave her feeling vulnerable. We've been working through it for a decade now have both been respectful and considerate for the most part. I don't see that changing.
My wife tended for years to try and hide the changes in her figure by wearing oversized clothes. I praised her when she'd wear things that showed her waist and over time she actually started buying things that accentuated rather than hid her curves. What she'd have said was too tight for herself, for years, are now totally acceptable in her own mind.
NOTE: And for those who might suggest breast forms or hip pads, I am not interested and those would definitely be dealbreakers. I definitely wouldn't give up the progress we've made for something I don't want.
