I am really very glad to hear this . I have been following along and I could really identify with her being angry at the therapist and I thank you for your honesty about that therapist , I would have the same SAME thing happen with Kat.. he would drift back naturally to the non binary world then after a session with the gender therapist would come out like some kind of female caricature and " I didn't really know him like the therapist did" etc etc. Many things contributed to his death but "her" telling him what he wanted to hear instead of what he NEEDED to hear was certainly a factor . He would just go so overboard after his sessions, caused alot of issues.
Your wife is who you really need to be buds with as you are rediscovering , she knows you best . She is actually fighting FOR you not against you .
