Sherry,
To me the answer is possibly when the sexual component has died down and there's still a gut feeling something isn't right , it took me years to discover with the help of counselling it's called gender dysphoria .
Many of us have lived with the stereotype of a woman and what a wonderful feeling it must be but in the RW it's not like that for many women , I admire women not so much for their feminity but for their ability to deal with a tough life on occcasions . How we look , move , talk doesn't make a perfect woman because there isn't one , GGs possibly struggle with life more than men do .
Personally to dress as a woman I feel is a window to show the world how I feel inside , I believe it's a trait I was born with and endured the battle beween the male and female side until I've finally found a balance , the battle or dysphoria is fine now .
To answer your question some but not all do have female traits inside us , I don't particularly act up to it , I'm just ME , to some I'm possibly more male than female and to others a fairly passable female . I feel more comfortable and happy appearing as Teresa , if people are also happy with that I don't have a problem .
I'm not passing judgement on you but if you stopped wearing your silicon suit could you dress and go out comfortably as Sherry . I know from past comments you possibly couldn't . At first it isn't easy , it takes time and belief in yourself , I was going to say it's easier for you because you can transform almost instantly to appear female .
So my question to you is do you have any dysphoria or do you just love acting the female part ?