Do you think it can be risky?

[susanmichelle]

I?m always careful the best I can when out dressed. I realize most on here are cross dressers but there?s many transgender here too. I just read another story about a mtf. Transgender was killed a few days ago. Too many have died due to all the violence and racism going on the last few years. We all need to be careful especially the one with the van, what a good place yo grab someone and throw them in a van and drive off. Please be careful and sounds like you did a good job handling yourself. God speed.

[Kimberly A.]

We all need to be careful especially the one with the van, what a good place yo grab someone and throw them in a van and drive off. Please be careful and sounds like you did a good job handling yourself. God speed.

Thank you, Susan and I totally agree.
But, it did appear that the guy was locked out of his van so he couldn't have thrown anyone into it even if he wanted to. LOL

[helicd]

In this day and age it makes sense to be as prepared as possible for any possible trouble, not to look for it, but purely as a defensive measure. This is something you should do whether you're out in normal clothing or crossdressed (or even naked, although concealing force multipliers becomes a bit more difficult then).

Situational awareness is key along with having whatever force multipliers you feel comfortable with using. These could be something as simple as pepper spray all the way up to concealed carry (persuant to your local laws).

An ounce of prevention is worth a ton of cure, and just because you're out in full male garb doesn't mean you're magically immune from danger.

[char GG]

Thank you, Susan and I totally agree.
But, it did appear that the guy was locked out of his van so he couldn't have thrown anyone into it even if he wanted to. LOL

Possibly. However, it could have been a ploy. What better way to get a potential victim close enough to a van to "throw them in". I still wouldn't trust him.

I think you handled the situation just fine.

[SophyV]

I have been watching a show about women who survived Ted Bundt encounters. While some barely escaped with their lives after being brutally tortured and raped, many just listened to their instincts and avoided his advances. Listen to your instincts better to be safe than sorry

[Marianne S]

I have been watching a show about women who survived Ted Bundt encounters.

I am ashamed to say that off the top of my head I can't recall the name if a single Bundy victim. Except for one that's always stuck in my mind.

Carol DaRonch. The "one who got away"!

[Dutchess]

This thread has made e think about how I handle things like this. I never really noticed what i did really , but ive lived alone now for a good while . My closest family( my youngest ) is 100 miles away and really no close friends that i'd go places with . So its REALLY just me and Im a pretty privte little creature as well and i think alot of it is to avoid scary/dangerous people . I also do not want to take the chance of someone following me home either .

I noticed that when I get out of my car , I completely disengage . I make NO eye contact with anyone ever , man , woman , no one . I stare off into space or at the store itself and keep walking . Twice , at Wal Mart and at Valero someone asked me for something and I pretended not to hear and kept it moving NO eye contact . I will also act very angry if i notice someone trying to make eye contact or drift my way. Like I'm mad a my non existent man or my kid lol and so mad im about to flip out and no one bothers me then either .
There us one wildly aggressive homeless younger man that sometimes appears at a gas station near my horses and ive really stopped going here due to his sudden appearances but i got VERY crazily , verbally aggressive with him and still i would not make eye contact . Weird I never noticed what I did until we started talking about it here . All this is automatic .

Cat calls at my age are very inappropriate so that really doesn't happen , I dont present as someone you'd do that too but the very few times it has happened they are not acknowledged at all .

[Teresa]

Dutchess,
It's a tough one and I can understand your caution . It still apears to be more of a problem in the US but saying that I'm sure UK members will remind me of possible no go areas here .

It's feels a long time since I've been out at night with the current lockdown rules , as for the daytime most of my outings are mostly safe shopping trips , eye contact is a little weird as we're peering over masks and if I'm wearing my glasses they will be steamed up anyway . Very few women dress to attract attention in the daytime , I'm happy to go along with that , not much point if you're just doing chores .

I have to admit the dog walking incident was an eye opener as it happened in broad daylight with other people walking their dogs in the area . The one point that did make me smile was when they walked away I heard the guy say to his wife , " Silly cow !" Talk about a back handed way of not being misgendered !