This subject has been beaten to death here, primarily because there are two, rather opposing, points of view on the matter of dealing (or not) with crossdressing in the context of a relationship.
One view holds that it will likely ruin the relationship. This view is, not surprisingly, promulgated by those who prefer to keep their nature a secret from their partners.
The other view is that it is wrong to hide this from the partner in a committed relationship.
Both approaches are, sadly, likely to strain the relationship, if not break it outright. There are exceptions, of course, but they are just that, exceptions. That is the unvarnished reality, my friends. IMO, being honest and open about who you are is still the best approach, by far. Being in a relationship that is built on deception is a waste of time, for both partners. Get it out in the open, early on. The odds of the relationship surviving are higher without years of deception added to the revelation. Either way, IMO, it is better to acknowledge who you are and let the chips fall where they may.
Yes, this is "just" my opinion, but I've lived it both ways and learned from it. You can't change who you are. This is not a "condition" that can be eradicated. It can be suppressed, but only at some cost; personal cost from the denial of who we are, and relationship cost from the deception or the fallout of that personal cost. Yes, it takes tremendous courage to face this. That it's revelation will wreck most relationships is a very real risk. Those who have accepted themselves, to the point of knowing that they should share it with anyone close enough to matter, are better off, if the stories here are any indication.
