To return to the subject of privilege- we speak of male privilege, but are more inclined to speak of female lack of privilege/oppression, as this view of the social context is popular right now. However, I think privilege really means anything we do that no one objects to strongly or prevents us from doing. Normally it refers to something that can be seen as desirable and that others are excluded from enjoying. Specific example would be that men often exercise the privilege of speaking over women, and women often exercise the privilege of taking charge and asserting authority in matters of emotional soothing. Men have the privilege of combative or competitive stance being accepted, while women have the privilege of administering self-focused personal care like moisturizing lotion. But any so -called privilege is just one face of a coin with many faces. A woman may suffer from lack of respect for primping. A man may be dismissed as a poser or loose cannon if too tense and argumentative. Being an attractive woman is just great as long as the right kind of man is attracted. Being a no nonsense unemotional man is great for getting stuff done, and a real liability when your son needs you to feel.
