Quote Originally Posted by Teresa View Post
Roberta,

So maybe this raises the question for other members , would you keep quite and let them assume that or do you correct them , obviously you have to consider if you still have a wife or not , my divorce is now final so I no longer have a wife in this situation .
I often refer to my ex-wife in conversations with friends and co-workers. It really isn't that big of a deal. Sometimes I might wryly preface the comment with: "In another life..."

As to the old lady, well, who cares? She acted as if you were a woman, so maybe now she thinks you're a lesbian. So what? Do you intend to make her your BFF and invite her into your circle of close friends?

One of my friends ( a pre-op transwoman living 24/7 )has custody of her teenaged daughter and she ALWAYS refers to her parent as 'Dad'. Neither one of them are bothered by this, and we always enjoy some of the startled reactions of people when she calls an older woman "Dad!" in a public venue.

Another GF and myself were in a mall, walking arm-in-arm with our heads close together ( because we were discussing something very personal and didn't want to broadcast what we we discussing ), when a woman stopped us and said "You two are a cute couple, so tall and slim! How long have you been together?" We smiled and thanked her and explained we were just friends.

We are not responsible for the conclusions and assumptions that others leap to about us. Nor are we required to correct their mistaken assumptions Unless you WISH to.