SarahLin I understand how you felt you didn't fit in with the Tri-Ess group if you were focused on transitioning.
Our Tri-Ess was aimed at helping CD's and spouses come together and understand what all this meant to the CD's and help the CD's feel at ease with themselves and their dressing. At the same time we did have some ladies who went on to transition. They were still part of the group and welcomed but most eventually moved on seeking more.
I wasn't speaking of differing agendas when I mentioned what occurred at some of the other groups. I merely wanted to say that those I encountered didn't extend the welcoming hand in the way we did for those that left our group. They made CD's feel that they were "posers", that they didn't belong since they were not transitioning. Certainly we didn't share their experiences, but we were still expressing our femininity and simply seeking safe haven and also knowledge to help us advance the cause of all.
There was one group that didn't look down on us. It was a mix of those just CD and those transitioning. There were round table discussions focused on the experiences, joys and difficulties faced by the ladies. I particularly relished participating in those and I was welcomed, not shunned. While my voice was different it was accepted and I learned much from those women. Not only about them and the world they face, but about myself and my corner in that world.
I simply feel that we are all in this together and if we segregate portions based on their ultimate goal we lose the variety that helps us grow and the potential support that can help us gain footholds in society.
Ok, that's my 2 Cents...let me have it....I can take it.
