Have any of your SOs levels of acceptance evolved from DADT to willingly (as opposed to grudgingly) going out with you?
That is almost exactly what happened to me. One day she suggested going for a coffee! I asked if she was worried about bumping into people she knew (her previous fear) and she said she was no longer worried about it. From that point things just got even better.
The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs. We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.